WORDS TO LIVE/DIE BY

					  BY

				CHUCK GALLAGHER, S.J.

				CELEBRATE LOVE SERIES

			  WORDS TO LIVE/DIE BY

					BY

			  CHUCK GALLAGHER, S. J.

		PASTORAL AND MATRIMONIAL RENEWAL CENTER

				DEDICATION

	To Bob and Paulette Brotherton, who are constantly open to making changes in their life in order to be closer to the Lord. 

Published by Pastoral And Matrimonial Renewal Center
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Copyright 1992 by Pastoral And Matrimonial Renewal Center

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Library of Congress Catalogue Card Number-91-91280

ISBN: 0-911905-47-2

				TABLE OF CONTENTS

	Preliminary Thoughts				 1
	Take Me As I Am					 3

	I Have To Find Myself				11

	God Loves Me Just The Way I Am		16

	What Would Jesus Say/Do/			20

	If It’s Legal, It Must Be Right		23

	No Sin – Only Psychological Abnormality	26

	You Can’t Be Too Rich, Too Thin Or Too
Young							32

	Religion is Private				37

	You Deserve It					44

	Make Your Own Moral Decisions			47

	Conclusion 						53

				Preliminary Thoughts

	All of us have two competing inclinations.  We very much want to be individuals, making up our own minds about things and having our own personality.  At the same time, we want to be accepted by our peers.  We don’t want to be considered weird or far out.  It is hard to balance those.  For most of us, our differences from others of similar backgrounds and circumstances are more external than internal, more accidental variations than essential.

	That is hard to admit and recognize.  There is no one directly telling us what we have to do or believe.  We are perfectly free to live in any section of the country, hold any type of job for which we are trained, go to the Church of our choice, shop where we wish, select our own friends, vote freely, establish our own type of life style.  These statements are less absolutely true for those belonging to minorities but do apply fairly universally to whites.

We can ambition great things for our children.  They have wonderful economic opportunities for their future.  We can send our children to any school.  Upon reflection, that last is not completely true.  The ublic Schools have a monopoly, a prime reasons they are in such bad shape.
   All the above mentiond

Drawing by Sr. Pauline McGrath, O.P.

				ABOUT THE AUTHOR

	Father Chuck Gallagher, S.J. is the founder and Executive Director of the Pastoral And Matrimonial Renewal Center, whose focus is on the development of lay spirituality and leadership in the Catholic Church.  He was the driving force behind the Worldwide Marriage Encounter movement and its first Executive Director.

	Father Chuck is the author of dozens of books, audio and video tapes and programs devoted to strengthening marriage, family life and the life of Faith.  As a renowned popular speaker, he has travelled extensively throughout the world, giving workshops and implementing these programs.  He is the initiator and co-author of the Sexuality Weekend for married couples and the author of the Celebrate Love Series.

	Father Chuck's great love for people and his constant encouragement enables them to develop a fuller and deeper love for one another.  He has touched and changed countless lives.  He is not only a priest and counsellor but a friend to many.  His magnetism, vision and enthusiasm has developed faith communities throughout the world.  Across the globe, people feel his understanding love and have responded overwhelmingly.

			   THE PASSIONATE COUPLE

		Spirituality and Sexuality Do Mix

	Sexuality and spirituality can come across to us like oil and water.  We don't think they mix with one another.  That is such a tragedy.  Such an attitude really is the basis which makes our couples second class citizens in the Church.  This Booklet is an attempt to correct that fallacy.  It enthusiastically calls husbands and wives to a passionate prayerfulness and a prayerful passion.  It celebrates the beauty of their sexual devotion to one another and encourages the couple to increase their sexual love day by day.

	Sexuality is not an interference with our approach to God for a couple but and enhancement of it.  In fact, it is a necessary condition in the prayerfulness of a husband and wife.  Their vocation, in the Lord is a sexual one.  That is what Matrimony is - a sexual Sacrament.  The Lord wants the good spouse to come to Him in the fulness of their devotion to one another.  Passion should be their normal state of life.  That is when they are at their best with one another and Him.  He always wants a couple to be at their peak of closeness with one another when they are with Him.